Category Archives: Family / Friends
Why Won’t He Apologise?
Have you seen this Ted Talk by Harriet Lerner – Why Won’t He Apologise? Why Won’t He Apologise? When I am working with coaching clients, one of the things that can come up is apologies. Unfortunately, quite often in life, we are not going to get the apologies that we want. Why? Because as…
Learning to Say ‘No’ With Compassion and Confidence
One of the things I have struggled to do in my life is say ‘no’. However, after burning-out a couple of times in my life (yes I know I was a slow-learner), I needed to learn to say ‘no’. As a recovering people-pleaser. I knew I also wanted to learn to say ‘no’ using an informed…
Time to Question the Seven Deadly Shoulds?
A few days ago, I wrote about the Ten Commandments of People-Pleasing as I needed a reminder about people-pleasing (yes I am transforming that part of myself). In her book the Disease to Please, Dr Braiker says there is a hidden eleventh element – “I should fulfil all of these should and shouldn’t expectations of myself…
What Are Some Signs of Red Flags in a Relationship?
The past few months, I have had my boundaries tested again. Subsequently, I knew I needed to learn more and untangle what was holding that pattern in place. In my search, I came across the book – Are You the One for Me? by Barbara de Angelis. In the book, de Angelis refers to nine fatal…
The Five Freedoms by Virginia Satir
Virginia Satir was an American author and therapist, whose work was done under the umbrella of “Becoming More Fully Human.” The purpose of Satir’s System of Therapy was to understand and incorporate the process of The Five Freedoms (a new way of communicating). This way of communicating freely starts with knowing oneself and becoming aware of others. The…
From Emotional Slavery to Emotional Liberation
Many highly sensitive women (and men) have challenges setting boundaries. They often deny their own needs to meet the needs of others and end up being people-pleasers. However, long-term this does not work well as we start to realise we are not responsible for other peoples’ feelings and and if we don’t value our own…
Shifting from Resistance to Acceptance
One of the challenges on the adventure of whole-heartedness is shifting from resistance to acceptance, especially in relation to emotions. Learning to realise that each morning when we wake up is a Guest House. Poem: The Guest House by Jellaludin Rumi “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A…
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