Starting to Untangle from Comparison

Welcome to Day 4 of the 2nd Starting to Untangle from Draining Habits 7-day Challenge.

Over 7 days, we are bringing awareness to different habits that cause undue stress or anxiety in our lives. At the end of each post, we share with you one simple step you can take to start to untangle the draining habit.

So far we have brought awareness to control, approval addiction and complaining.

Today we are going to focus on the habit of comparison.

So let’s get started…

Draining Habit #4: Comparison

What have you noticed to your energy when you compare your self to other people? For me, I feel quite drained. It can also lead to animosity, jealousy, competition and resentment. Underneath comparison is quite often a belief or sense we are not enough as we are, which is created by the ego, inner critic or monkey mind.

In his book, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose, Eckhart Tolle talks about the ego and the roles it plays. He says – 

“Why does the ego play roles? Because of one unexamined assumption, one fundamental error, one unconscious thought. That thought is I am not enough. Other unconscious thoughts follow: I need to play a role in order to get what I need to be fully myself; I need to get more so I can be more. But you cannot be more than you are because underneath your physical and psychological form, you are one with Life itself, one with Being. In form, you are and will always be inferior to some, superior to others. In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realisation. In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same.” 

Challenge: Starting to Untangle from Comparison –

As you are going through life today, notice when you are comparing yourself to other people. When you notice the comparisons, write them down (e.g. who and what you are comparing yourself to).

At the end of the day, reflect on the comparisons and check to see if they are true. Hint – if you think they are true, dig a litter deeper 🙂

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Reference –

Tolle, E. (2008). A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose. USA: Penguin.