Starting to Untangle from Control

A few weeks ago, I wrote about 7 draining habits. Each day for the 7 days, I shared a different habit that causes undue stress or anxiety in our lives. At the end of each post, I shared one simple step you can take to start to untangle from that draining habit. The habits I shared were – So far we have brought awareness to OvercommitmentBlameContinual Sense of LackEmotional EatingPushing ThroughTaking Things Personally and Self-Doubt.

At the end of the 7 days, I realised there were many more draining habits, so I have decided to share 7 more. Over the next 7 days I am going to be exploring some more draining habits and ways you can start to untangle from them. The habits I’m referring to are the ones that keep us overwhelmed, fatigued, anxious, stressed out and not enjoying life to the fullest.

Each day there will also be an activity and/or challenge.  Something simple but effective.

So let’s get started…

Today we are going to focus on the habit of control.

Draining Habit #1: Control

Quite often in life we think we have control over many things, however have you ever sat down and really reflected on what you have control over? When I talk about control, I am referring to influencing the outcomes I would like through my decisions, skills, attitude, work ethic and actions. When something is outside of my control the outcome is left up to “fate” and I have little influence on the outcome.

A few years ago when I was being challenged by control and feeling a deep sense of responsibility for things outside of my control, the following quote came in to my life –

“I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business. If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation.” ~ Byron Katie

Challenge: Starting to Untangle from Things Outside My Control –

At some stage today, you may like to invest some time finishing the following sentence starters –

  • The situations I have control over are…
  • The situations I have little or no control over are…
  • The outcomes I have control over are…
  • The outcomes I have little or no control over are…

What did you discover about yourself?


Over to You…

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