Starting to Untangle from Making Assumptions

Welcome to Day 6 of the 2nd Starting to Untangle Draining Habits 7-day Challenge.

Over 7 days, we are bringing awareness to different habits that cause undue stress or anxiety in our lives. At the end of each post, we share with you one simple step you can take to start to untangle the draining habit.

So far we have brought awareness to controlapproval addiction, comparisoncomplaining and perfectionism.

Today we are going to focus on the habit of making assumptions.

So let’s get started…

Draining Habit #6: Making Assumptions

Yes I know some habits are challenging to break and maybe this is one of those… Growing up and being in the public eye, I had many assumptions made about me. Maybe that is one of the reasons why I am so inquisitive now, question so much and am learning to master this draining habit.

In his book the Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz writes… –

“We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole drama for nothing.”

Then you start to realise, you need to trust yourself and not take things personally.

Challenge: Starting to Untangle from Making Assumptions –

If you find yourself making assumptions, remember this wisdom from the Four Agreements –

“Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.”


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Reference –

Ruiz, D. (1997). The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. California, USA: Amber-Allen Publishing Inc.

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