The Making of CEO OF YOU – Courage from the Inside Out

I have had a few challenging experiences the past few weeks. As I continue to learn to take 100% responsibility for my life, I needed to discover an answer and fortunately I did. I learnt there was still parts of my life where I was giving my power away.

 

 

My Opinion on Empowerment

Firstly, beware – this is personal! Secondly – there is a sense of vulnerability writing about this.

A number of years back, I remember having a conversation with a colleague, Jo, when we were creating resources and professional development for schools across Australia. As we often did, we were discussing teaching, students and how they learn. This discussion sparked something in me that I didn’t know was there until later.

I made a comment along the lines of – “It doesn’t matter what the teacher does, if the students’ perception of themselves is that they are stupid or worthless, they are not going to learn. The student has to learn to see through or untangle those beliefs themselves. They may even subconsciously self-sabotage themselves.” 

I didn’t know it at the time, but I was referring to me. Yes – I believed I was stupid, worthless, something was wrong with me and would never amount to anything. I had taken on board and believed these thoughts/beliefs from a variety of past experiences. I am not sure if Jo knew I was referring to me (I suspect she did as she was quite intuitive and guided another colleague to purchase the book as a Secret Santa present called When I Loved  Myself Enough).

Subsequently – from my own experiences, I can now see how I am the only one that can empower me and you are the only one that can empower yourself. More than likely you will face your deepest fears, be challenged and mistakes will be made along the way, however that is part of the gift of the learning process and does not mean you are a failure, something is wrong with you or you are worthless. Ralph Waldo Emerson put it this way – “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

Yes, you can have support (and I encourage that as long as it is the right type) along the way, however in the end you are only who is responsible for you and stand in your power. What is power? Glad you asked…

 

What is Power?

The word “power” comes from the Latin word “posse”, which means “be able”. There are many definitions of power, including –

  • “the ability or capacity to do something or act in a particular way,” or “the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behaviour of others or the course of events.” ~ Google
  • “Ability to act or produce an effect.” ~ Merriam-Webster Dictionary
  • “Capability of doing or accomplishing something.” ~ Dictionary.com
  • “The ability or capacity to do something or act in a particular way.” ~ Oxford Dictionaries

After reading these definitions on power, what does it mean to you? What I refer to empowerment as it “power-with” not “power-over”.

Need some further clarification? Maybe the following 10 quotes can help!

 

10 Quotes on Power and Empowerment

The following 10 quotes relate to power and empowerment yourself –

  1. “We fear and crave becoming truly ourselves.” ~ Abraham Maslow
  2. “Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.” ~ Tao Te Ching
  3. “The day the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
  4. “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” ~ Abraham Lincoln
  5. “Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.” ~ Seneca
  6. “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” ~ Alice Walker
  7. “The measure of a man is what he does with power.” ~ Plato
  8. “Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself.” ~ Elie Weisel
  9. “You see what power is, holding someone else’s fear in your hand and showing it to them.” ~ Amy Tan
  10. “As I have often written, power is the fundamental ingredient of the human experience. Every action in life, every thought, every choice we make – even down to what we wear and whether we are seating in first class or coach – represents a negotiation of power somewhere on the scale of power that constitutes life.” ~ Caroline Myss 

 

Bingo – this is what I needed to continually do and subsequently wanted to help other women have the courage to do that for themselves – become the Chief Empowerment Officer (CEO) of their own life (isn’t it funny how what we end up teaching what we most need to learn…) 🙂

Why 90 Days for CEO OF YOU?

There are a couple of reasons.

Firstly – over the years, the clients I have had the privilege of working with have helped me realise that change takes time. Now don’t get me wrong, there are different types of change, however the changes many of my clients were after (i.e. an increase in self-confidence, starting the habit of self-care, developing an exercise habit, deeper self-awareness and self-compassion) were taking longer than they expected. Due to the length of time and their own expectations, some were starting to give up on themselves (which was hard to see). Fortunately, they had support and chose to continue on.

Secondly – as I continued to research change, I came across research done by the European Journal of Social Psychology. The research conducted by Phillippa Lally and her colleagues from the University College London found that change took from 18-254 days and that the average length of change was 66 days.

Thirdly – I knew from experiencing change within my own life that change takes time. During those times, all I did was take one step and then the next step would be revealed. Little did I know until later (thanks Joseph Campbell – see quote below), that is all I could have taken at that time.

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Finally – I discovered that the change process was about unlearning as much as remembering. Yes, less is more (not what we have been led to believe). Unlearning or untangling the beliefs, distorted thoughts or conditioning that we had learnt when we were younger and remembering who we truly are. I knew I wanted to create a safe space to continue to change within myself and share that space with other people.

 

The Adventure of Being YOU

Truly learning to embrace and accept yourself is a lifelong adventure. As life continues to change and evolve, we need to remember what we have control over and what we don’t. It takes practice to continue to wholeheartedly accept your gifts and be who you are.

“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ~ Joseph Campbell

Subsequently, I wanted to create a safe and supportive environment where women could come together to create change within their own personal and professional life. I also wanted to be apart of the process, so I could also share my experiences of creating change as well as support a group of changemakers to make the change they were wanting to make.

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CEO OF YOU – Courage from the Inside Out!

A few years ago, it dawned on me. I finally realised I had to change on the inside in order for the outside to change. Yep – I felt like I had tried everything and I felt lost. It was a real lightbulb moment and I start to have a deeper understanding of what Aldous Huxley meant when he said – “I wanted to change the world. But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.”

Prioritising You is about creating change that feels right for you and embracing your power, so you can experience more bliss in your life!

It is about giving yourself permission to say yes to yourself and following your heart.

Then committing (with flexibility of course) to that change for 90 days.

What could you create in 90 days with the right kind of support?

Yes, it is about YOU deciding what you would like to change and then having the courage to step forward and prioritise YOU throughout the 90 days of change!

The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure. ~ Joseph Campbell

Outline of the 90 Days

Following is an outline of the adventure we will travel over the 90 days –

 

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