You Are Worthy NOW!

One of the themes that has been running through conversations I have been having is worthiness.

Maybe it is because I have been learning to realise my value as a human being and not having to strive, prove or earn my own worth. Or maybe it is because that it what these conversations required – some awareness around worthiness. Subsequently, I am going to share a little more around this topic of worthiness.

In this post, I will discuss –

• What is Worthiness?
• A Lack of Worthiness…
• 11 Quotes on Worthiness
• Remember Worthiness Has No Prerequisites…

Let’s get started…

What is Worthiness?

Ok it is probably quite self-explanatory, however here are a few definitions –

• “having adequate or great merit, character, or value:“ ~ Dictionary.com
• “the quality of deserving respect or attention“ ~ Cambridge Dictionary
• “the quality or state of having merit or value“ ~ The Free Dictionary

A Lack of Worthiness…

Some of the definitions of unworthy include –

• “beneath the dignity”, “not deserving” or “not commendable or credible” ~ Dictionary.com
• “lacking in excellence or value” or “not deserved” ~ Merriam-Webster
• “not deserving respect or attention.” ~ Google and Oxford Dictionary
• “not deserving respect, admiration, or support” ~ Cambridge Dictionary
• “If a person or thing is unworthy of something good, they do not deserve it.” ~ Collins Dictionary

If you have every questioned your worthiness, you will be familiar with the following sayings –

• Who am I to …
• Maybe when I …. then I can … or then I will be ready, valuable, deserving or worthy of …
• I am JUST a ….
• How could I possibly do …

A lack of worthiness looks like someone who is holding back, someone who is staying small, procrastinating, trying to  perfect, play it safe, or someone who is paralysed by doubt or fear.

A lack of worthiness feels like shame, guilt, worry, fear, disappointment or that sense of disconnectedness.

11 Quotes on Worthiness

1. “When you get to a place where you understand that love and belonging, your worthiness, is a birthright and not something you have to earn, anything is possible.” ~ Brené Brown
2. “Self-worth is an understanding on the intellectual level, trusting at the heart level, and accepting at the soul level that you are worthy just because you believe that you are. Your worthiness is proven by your existence. Your breathing. The beating of your heart. Your mere presence is all that is needed to establish your worth.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant
3. “Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous…. Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn’t feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive.” ~ Brené Brown
4. “Your problem is you’re too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” ~ Ram Dass
5. “Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” ~ Brené Brown
6. “Over the years, I’ve interviewed thousands of people, most of them women, and I would say that the root of every dysfunction I’ve ever encountered, every problem, has been some sense of a lacking of self-value or of self-worth.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
7. “You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.” ~ Brené Brown
8. “We often block our own blessings because we don’t feel inherently good enough or smart enough or pretty enough or worthy enough… You’re worthy because you are born and because you are here. Your being here, your being alive makes worthiness your birthright. You alone are enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
9. “I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred. Perhaps embracing vulnerability and overcoming numbing is ultimately about the care and feeding of our spirits.” ~ Brené Brown
10. “We must honour our worthiness in order to receive what we want. In our society we are conditioned to believe that we are not worthy, and that it is even selfish to want to be able to attract things into our lives.” ~ Wayne Dyer
11. “When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness – the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. Our sense of worthiness – that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging – lives inside of our story.” ~ Brené Brown

Remember Worthiness Has No Prerequisites…

Without realising it, so many of us have allowed, created or been handed down a long list of worthiness “prerequisites.” For example –

I’ll be worthy when I get married.

I’ll be worthy when I finish my degree. 

I’ll be worthy when I win a tournament. 

I’ll be worthy when I can do the splits in yoga.

I’ll be worthy when I have 1000 Facebook likes or friends.  

I’ll be worthy when I can make a living with my business. 

I’ll be worthy when I write a book. 

I’ll be worthy when I lose 5kgs. 

I’ll be worthy when I can do it all and then some…

etc. etc. etc….

However, as Dr Brené Brown says – “There are no prerequisites for worthiness.”

You are worthy NOW! You do not have to prove anything to anyone or earn the right to breathe (yes I did believe that).

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