What is Stress?
The past couple of weeks, I have been talking a lot about stress. So today, I wanted to write a post on it. Let’s get started… What is Stress? There are many definitions of stress including – “pressure or tension exerted on a material object” and “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension…
6 Myths About Stress
There are many myths about stress and what you don’t know about stress can hurt you. In the book, The Stress Solution, Lyle Miller and Alma Smith refer to 6 myths about stress. Once you know these, you can change your perceptions and beliefs around stress. 6 Myths About Stress Here are the 6 myths about stress…
Becoming Aware of Defence Mechanisms
So you have decided one or more of your behaviours is a problem, not a preference – now what? We need to become aware of our defence mechanisms… What are Defence Mechanisms? There are a number of definitions including – “a mental process initiated unconsciously to avoid experiencing conflict or anxiety” ~ Google “A…
You Cannot Force Other People to Change, However You Can Help Them!
Do you have a family member who is unhappy with their work situation? Is a friend a smoker? Or maybe a friend who is going from one challenging relationship to the next? Chances are, there is someone in your life who you know needs and/or wants to change, however they are not making any progress…
Helping and Enabling – Is There a Difference?
Is there really a difference between helping and enabling? Yes, there is according to the research. However, before we discuss the differences, let’s look at what “helping and enabling” are – Helping is: being there or doing something for someone that they CANNOT do for themselves, and Enabling is: doing something for somebody that they COULD or…
5 Critical Factors for Successful Change
Change is one of the few certainties in life. Many of us want to change different things in our lives or about ourselves, but that is not the challenge. The challenge (or issue) is we criticise and judge ourselves harshly for not making the change. And subsequently end up being in resistance with the present moment, which equates…
Behaviour – Is it a Problem or a Preference?
Are certain behaviours patterns a problem or a preference? Can people really have behaviour problems, if they don’t know they exist? This topic is something I have been reflecting on lately with clients (and colleagues) who are thinking about or are starting to make changes in their life. It also brings me back to the statement – we don’t…
