This past week, I came across the song Here’s Where the Story Ends by the Sunday’s. The song has really resonated with me as it relates so well to the stories we tell ourselves.
What Do I Mean By “The Stories We Tell Ourselves”?
What I mean is, each moment we could be telling ourselves a story in relation to any number of aspects of our careers, business or life, including –
- our body and what shape it is in,
- our money and financial assets,
- our career and the work I do,
- our relationships (friends, family etc.) and how they are going,
- the environment I live in and what is happening around me, or
- basically anything in our life experience.
Subsequently, the stories (made up of thoughts, feelings and body sensations) that we tell ourselves (whether conscious or unconscious), have an impact on how we feel and our current life experience, happiness and wellbeing.
How did the stories start? Simply, when you were young –
Someone said X ==> you created Y.
Then you go on and live life for the next 5, 10, 15 or 25 years as though that is the truth about you. However, it is not the full truth about who you are.
Change Your Thoughts to Change Your Story
Dr Wayne Dyer said it so well “Change the way you see things, and the things you see will change.”
If you don’t like the current story of your life, you can change your thoughts and by changing your thoughts you can change your story and life. As you start to change your life, you receive feedback through your senses and feelings to know if you are on track and allowing life to be as it is.
When you start noticing your thoughts, you realise some thoughts feel better than others. Then you you start to see that thoughts are just thoughts and they are not who you really are. Also, feelings are just feelings and they are also not who you are either.
As Victor Frankl indicated ~ “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Unravelling the Resistance!
If you want to change your story and your life from what you are currently experiencing, you have to start unravelling the story you are telling yourself or the resistance to the present moment. As you start unravelling the resistance to the present moment by being aware of your language, thoughts, feelings and actions, life starts to flow.
As you do this remember –
- it is your responsibility to do the work (no-one else can do it for you),
- to focus on the learnings or gifts you receive and the gratitude that surrounds you, and
- you have the power to give yourself permission to create the vision for your life you would like.
Who Would You Be Without Your Story?
Are you committed to telling a different story? If so, who would you be without your story?
Are you willing to invest the time in unravelling the barriers that are holding you back from being who you truly are and surrender to this moment?
If you need some inspiration here is the song from the Sundays – “Here’s Where the Story Ends”.
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