The Empowerment Triangle – A Win/Win Solution for Everybody

Last night, I received an e-mail from someone who is interested in my coaching services. In the e-mail they thought I would be “fixing them” if they started working with me. That could not be further from the truth…

Subsequently, in the post I am going to share with you my approach to coaching and mentoring, it is based on The Empowerment Triangle – A Win/Win Solution for Everybody.

Let’s start with what coaching is…


What is Coaching?

The International Coach Federation (ICF) refers to coaching as “partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.” Coaching recognises the client as the expert in their own world (personal and professional) and knows every person is creative, resourceful, and whole.

Basically the coaching process is about identifying where you are now, where you would like to be and then close that gap. The coach does this through –

  • discovering, clarifying, and aligning with where the client wants to be,
  • encouraging self-discovery and trust within themselves,
  • eliciting client-generated solutions and strategies,
  • keeping the client accountable and ensuring they are taking responsibility for themselves
  • providing support to the client.


What Coaching is NOT!

Coaching is not –

  • a quick-fix, one size fits all approach for your current challenges (as we are all unique),
  • therapy or counseling (please seek a licensed medical professional if this is what you need),
  • about giving you advice (you are the expert in your own life),
  • financial advising or estate planning (again please seek a licensed practitioner if this is what you require).

Now we are clear with what coaching is and what coaching is not, let me share with you the empowerment triangle.


The Empowerment Triangle – a Win/Win Solution for Everybody

The coaching I do is moving people from the Karpman Drama Triangle (also known as the rescue triangle) to the empowerment triangle.

Basically, the Drama Triangle is a lose/lose situation for the people involved. The Drama Triangle looks like this –

Karpman Drama Triangle


By developing self-awareness, identifying patterns, being responsible and aligning to your true self the drama triangle can become an empowerment triangle over time, which is a win/win solution for everyone. The Empowerment Triangle is identified in the diagram below.

Empowerment Triangle


How a Coach Can Support YOU…

There are many ways a coach can support you. They include –

  • wanting greater harmony in your life,
  • changing your relationship with food,
  • going through a transition in life (e.g. changing jobs),
  • wanting to learn to trust yourself,
  • simplifying your life,
  • facing a stressful issue at work,
  • wanting to uncover your strengths and gifts,
  • needing some support to deal with fear or self-doubt,
  • needing to learn self-acceptance or self-compassion,
  • wanting to increase your self-awareness and well-being,
  • transforming procrastination,
  • feeling overwhelmed with everything you have to do,
  • tired of not being your true self?
  • ready to take better care of yourself,
  • wanting to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life, or
  • needing an accountability buddy.


I hope this post has given you some insight in to the coaching process we use at Habits for Wellbeing. If you have any further questions, please contact us here.


If you are ready to reclaim your courage and take the next step towards your freedom and opening your heart, why not join our Toolkit?


References –

Choy, A. (1990). The Winner’s Triangle. Transactional Analysis Journal, 20(1), 40–46.DOI: 10.1177/036215379002000105

Karpman, S. (2014). A Game Free Life. USA: Drama Triangle Publications.

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