What Is Your Most Important Thing?
As I have been working with clients, one of the questions I often ask is – what is the most important thing at the moment? “The most important thing is remembering the most important thing.” ~ Suzuki Roshi What is your most important thing? If you are ready to reclaim your courage and take…
Daring to Set Boundaries…
This has been a big step for me, having the courage to set boundaries. As a person who had the tendency to put other people’s needs before her own and very rarely say “no”, I am reclaiming my power little by little. What about you? “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to…
Time to Question the Seven Deadly Shoulds?
A few days ago, I wrote about the Ten Commandments of People-Pleasing as I needed a reminder about people-pleasing (yes I am transforming that part of myself). In her book the Disease to Please, Dr Braiker says there is a hidden eleventh element – “I should fulfil all of these should and shouldn’t expectations of myself…
What Are Some Signs of Red Flags in a Relationship?
The past few months, I have had my boundaries tested again. Subsequently, I knew I needed to learn more and untangle what was holding that pattern in place. In my search, I came across the book – Are You the One for Me? by Barbara de Angelis. In the book, de Angelis refers to nine fatal…
The Five Freedoms by Virginia Satir
Virginia Satir was an American author and therapist, whose work was done under the umbrella of “Becoming More Fully Human.” The purpose of Satir’s System of Therapy was to understand and incorporate the process of The Five Freedoms (a new way of communicating). This way of communicating freely starts with knowing oneself and becoming aware of others. The…
From Emotional Slavery to Emotional Liberation
Many highly sensitive women (and men) have challenges setting boundaries. They often deny their own needs to meet the needs of others and end up being people-pleasers. However, long-term this does not work well as we start to realise we are not responsible for other peoples’ feelings and and if we don’t value our own…
Starting to Transform the Disease to Please
During the past few months, my boundaries have been tested again. As a recovering people-pleaser (aka the one that rarely says “no” or the “nice girl”), I am familiar with my patterns around this after many, many years of inner work. However, I also needed a reminder about how far I have come and it…
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